1. Do not Talk In Bed
The bed is a place to release fatigue. Do not discuss your problems and complaints in bed, especially when going to or after sex. Instead, talk about the problem when you're relaxing together. If you speak in a public place, make sure that others can not hear the conversation.
2. Plan Your Time Discussion
There are several things to be said spontaneously. But for more serious things that you should plan in advance when you can talk about it with my husband. If unprepared, your husband might be defensive. Conversely, if you and he had planned to discuss the issue, both parties would have to prepare what to say.
3. Remembering the Past Memories
According to Sharky, reminisce about how great your sex activity early in a relationship can take you into a conversation about sex. You can begin with the sentence, 'I remember when you used to kiss me for hours, it feels good' or 'I like it when you hug me from behind, making me feel wanted.'
4. Say What You Want
Maybe terdegar somewhat cliche, but most men do not know how to stimulate your partner. But be aware that this is indeed true, that there are many men are confused because they do not know how to please their partner. Once a child or a person gets older, certain spots may already be immune to the stimuli. Should you tell your husband what he wanted to get satisfaction. Once the advice of Tod Creager, a therapist from Los Angeles who wrote the book 'The Long Hot Marriage'.
5. Do not scold or Underestimating
According to Creager, although you are not satisfied with the action of the bed husband, never scold him for it. Cultivate in yourself that you can accept it, and pretend to put the expression of happiness. But you should still talk about it and do not start with harsh words. Try to say things like this' I know you want to satisfy me, I also want you to enjoy the moments we made love. Let's discuss how we can be more satisfied. '
6. Replace your Viewpoint Discussion
Viewpoint of this discussion is about you. Creager suggested to replace several phrases like 'It's not about you can not satisfy me, but about what I want.' Or it could also replace the phrase 'you're less long foreplay' to 'I want to be touched and caressed more often before doing so.'
7. Non-verbal expression
Maybe all this you do not show hurtful words about the problem you are facing. But do not forget the non-verbal expression. It could be expressions, body language and tone of voice shows that you're desperate and emotionally dealing with the problem. So when discussing with your partner, you should breathe deeply and allow yourself to remain calm.
8. Finding the Middle Way
You have several solutions, but it never hurts you also open to ideas from the husbands. Brainstorming aims to find a middle way issues, so candid with her preferences. According to Sharky, sex therapist can indeed provide a solution to your problems, but in some couples, they simply looking for a book or video to enhance their sex lives.
9. Not Just One Kali Discussion
Keep in mind, that discussion of sexual issues between you and the spouse is not a discussion that is done only once. This is an ongoing discussion. Some couples, regularly scheduled a discussion to discuss the financial and child development, why do not you add this issue in the discussion?
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